Bonding With Your Unborn Baby

Bonding With Your Unborn Baby

When you have your baby people will make comments like, "You are going to be the best mom ever." "Congratulations on becoming a parent." But guess what? That's not when you became a mom.  

You become a parent the MINUTE YOUR BABY IS CONCEIVED.

You have already been making decisions and interacting with this baby even on a subconscious level as your baby is growing within you. 


    • Helps people become better parents
    • Helps babies, after they are born, have enhanced motor, cognitive, social, and language development.
    • Foster baby's independence, ability to trust, and their self worth
    • Helps magnify family strength, understanding, and love.
    • Bonding is just as important for partners.
    • Bonding evokes a feeling of protectiveness towards baby.
    • Partners who bond with their babies in the womb have a more active and positive outlook on their transition into parenthood.

"Prenates can see, hear, feel, remember, taste, and think before birth,”

Research shows that babies in the womb have the emotional and intuitive capabilities to sense their parents love.

This is completely apparent in the delivery room. We see this all the time as we attend births:

There was one birth I attended when the baby was having complications so right after the delivery he was rushed to the newborn station and was surrounded by a team of medical professionals. The father went with the baby but couldn’t get close enough to touch him as he was being worked on by many other hands. So over their heads he began to call, “Hey buddy, it’s daddy. You are going to be ok bud. I’m here, mom’s here. I’m not going to leave you bud, I’m here.” Over and over he kept calling out to his son. The second that baby heard his dad’s voice he threw his head back to face the exact direction of his dad. 

Babies know their parents before they are born. So get to know your baby before they are born. We’ll teach you how:

Ways to bond with your baby in the womb:

  • Conversation/Reading
  • Music/Singing
  • Massage/Rubbing
  • Journal/Diary
  • Guided Imagery
  • Movement; walking, yoga, dancing

Consider connecting withy your baby with the different types of love languages:

  1. Physical Touch
  2. Words of Affirmation
  3. Quality Time
  4. Gifts
  5. Acts of Service

Don’t let anyone tell you it’s silly to talk, read, and sing to your baby before they are born. It’s not, your little one is taking in the sounds around them including your voice!

Your voice does great things for your baby. Studies show that the sound of it is calming, both in the womb and when you finally get to meet them as a newborn.

Scientists have recorded that unborn babies clearly respond to different vibrations and sounds with changes in their heart rate or movement patterns, and are most responsive to the sound of their mother’s voice.

Your baby learns to recognize and remember your voice during your pregnancy. This means the conversations that you have with your bump are the foundations for their social and emotional development, as well as their language skills and memory. Your voice is already shaping their understanding of the world.

Communicate feelings of love by taking some time every day and sitting quietly, and telling your baby how welcome it is in your life.

Researchers from the Dundee University’s Psychology department used 4-D ultrasound videos to record the reaction of unborn babies when different people touched their mother's stomach during pregnancy. They found that babies were most likely to reach out and touch the wall of the uterus when their mother caressed her bump.

The response was nowhere near as strong when others rubbed the mother's stomach. This may explain why mothers often feel their babies moving about when they touch their stomach only for the baby to stop when a partner or friend tries to feel it.

Feel the baby. Place your hands on your abdomen and rest your hands quietly, feeling the baby kick, or gently massaging the baby. Do this often to bond.

University of Montreal scientists (Perreau-Linck et al) have shown that activities like mindfulness and guided imagery have a direct impact on the brain’s production of hormones specifically oxytocin. And it's oxytocin that facilitates bonding. So if you are having a hard time bonding with your baby, try a guided imagery script.

After Birth Bonding

Continue bonding  with your baby through – skin-to-skin contact, early breastfeeding, cuddling and carrying the baby. Your baby needs to have plenty of face-to-face contact and chatting.

Child / Parent bonding has so many benefits and affects everyone. You won't regret it.


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